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Saturday, March 04, 2006

The Issue of Divorce in Matthew 5:31-32

As our Sunday School class continues to go through the Sermon on the Mount I'll continue posting texts from it and also some exegesis of those texts with application. As in all my posts, the text will come from the HCSB version of Scripture unless I say otherwise.

Divorce is a serious issue today, one that most people don't want to talk about. Many, many people in our churches are divorced, and many of them have been remarried. Much of the time it seems that the people in our churches who have been divorced and remarried don't think much of it. They don't consider it having been a sin. To be sure, there are some situations where divorce is not a sin, but most of the time those who have had a divorce didn't get it for the reasons Scripture allows. That being said, Jesus addresses one of those issues here in Matthew five, and also in Matthew 19. Paul mentions another issue in 1 Corinthians 7, and to deal with the whole counsel of the subject and what the Bible teaches on it in the New Testament, I'll touch on all of three passages. First however, since we are in the Sermon on the Mount, I'll deal with Matthew five.
Matthew 5:31 "It was also said, Whoever divorces his wife must give her a written notice of divorce.
Matthew 5:32 But I tell you, everyone who divorces his wife, except in a case of sexual immorality, causes her to commit adultery. And whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Jesus quotes the Old Testament here, referencing Moses's command on divorce in Deuteronomy 24:1. It goes along with the rest of the citations He makes in this part of the Sermon. Jesus has a pattern of mentioning an Old Testament command, and then giving the true intention of the commands. In this way, He corrects the understanding of the people and religious leaders of the day. Not to murder was not enough; getting angry at your brother is also wrong (this of course being a non-righteous anger). Not committing adultery was not enough; entertaining the thoughts of adultery were equal to committing adultery in one's heart. Now we arrive at the instructions related to divorce.

Here, as before, when Jesus makes a quote from the Old Testament, He does so to correct the mindset of his hearers. I've addressed the wrong midsets above for the other passages in Matthew five that have lead up to this point; now I do so here.

Jesus follows on the coatails of his pervious statement talking about adultery. It is no coincidence that the preceding verses address adultery and now Jesus mentions it in the context of divorce. Remember: context rules our interpretation. Jesus has said that adultery is sin, and his hears would agree with that of course, since He cited one of the Ten Commandments. He then goes on to inform them that adultery is not just the act, but the desire to commit the act. Now, He states that divorce is ALSO adultery -- unless adultery it has already happened.

The reason is described below.
Matthew 19:3 Some Pharisees approached Him to test Him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife on any grounds?"
Matthew 19:4 "Haven't you read," He replied, "that He who created them in the beginning made them male and female,
Matthew 19:5 and He also said: For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh?
Matthew 19:6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, man must not separate."
Matthew19:7 "Why then," they asked Him, "did Moses command us to give divorce papers and to send her away?"
Matthew 19:8 He told them, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because of the hardness of your hearts. But it was not like that from the beginning.
Matthew 19:9 And I tell you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery."

In this passage, the Pharisees bring up the Deuteronomy passage that Jesus cited earlier. Jesus appeals ever farther back than Deuteronomy, back to Genesis, when He gives the real designs for divorce. When God designed marriage, it didn't have in it the loophole for divorce. God designed marriage to be a permanent relationship until death, and anything less insults marriage and the One Who designed it. When Jesus appealed to Genesis, the Pharisees asked Him why it was permitted at all, and Jesus responded that it was the "hardness of their hearts." Furthermore, after saying that, He makes a very clear statement by saying, "but it was not like that from the beginning." Since it was not like this from the beginning, then to get a divorce would be to sin, because it violates God's standard for marriage. The text is clear.

This was an extremely important teaching during Jesus's time, especially when a woman's means of support was almost exclusively that of her husband. If she were to get divorced, she'd likely be left with nothing, and would probably just be forced into another man's arms to be married just so she could survive. Jesus makes it clear that this woman commits adultery when she does get remarried -- and her husband who divorced her shares the blame. Further, when the husband divorces his wife he is also guilty of adultery when he marries another. However unpopular and cutting this teaching is, it is that simple, and we mustn't try to get around it.

Now, we must ask -- when is divorce permitted? Jesus appears to be giving an exception, right? Here is the thing -- if adultery has already taken place, that is, if a marriage was going on and one of the partners were to commit adultery, then it wouldn't be a sin for the divorce to happen. However, let this be known -- this exception is not a command. More times than I can remember God refers to the nation of Israel in the Old Testament as an adulterous nation because they rejected Him, and even though He judged them, He was still gracious to them, bringing back a remnant to the land. Given this, even though adultery was a sin, divorce does not NEED to follow it. It just means that, since adultery has already taken place, then the sin is done. The divorce then would not cause it to happen, since it already has.

Now, there is one other passage in the New Testament that gives grounds for a divorce, and it is in the writings of Paul.
1 Corinthians 7:10 I command the married--not I, but the Lord--a wife is not to leave her husband.
1 Corinthians 7:11 But if she does leave, she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband--and a husband is not to leave his wife.
1 Corinthians 7:12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she is willing to live with him, he must not leave her.
1 Corinthians 7:13 Also, if any woman has an unbelieving husband, and he is willing to live with her, she must not leave her husband.
1 Corinthians 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the Christian husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
1 Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let him leave. A brother or a sister is not bound in such cases. God has called you to peace.
1 Corinthians 7:16 For you, wife, how do you know whether you will save your husband? Or you, husband, how do you know whether you will save your wife?
1 Corinthians 7:17 However, each one must live his life in the situation the Lord assigned when God called him. This is what I command in all the churches.

Paul may have been meaning the very command that Jesus mentioned before in Matthew. Remember: the adultery doesn't happen until a remarriage happens from what Jesus was saying, even though the divorce itself was a sin. This is probably why Paul says that the Lord indicated a wife must not leave her husband and vice versa, but if they do, then remain unmarried or be reconciled to each other. It would be best if the wrong were to be righted (they get back together), but at the very least, do not fall into more sin (by marrying someone else and thus committing adultery).

Now, Paul goes on to give another reason how marriage can be ended without sin to the believer. Apparently, it wasn't uncommon for one marriage partner to become a Christian and the other not. Of course, Paul indicates the possibility that the converted spouse's witness could be the factor God uses to convert the other (and even the children), but sometimes that is not the case. Sometimes, the unbelieving spouse will leave, and Paul indicates here that the believer who was left is not bound in such cases. However, note this important distinction: it is the nonbeliever who leaves here, and not the believer. Even if a Christian ends up in a marriage with a non-Christian, the Christian is not permitted to leave. Now, if the non-believer leaves, the marriage then is permitted to end according to the apostle Paul.

Note this as well -- some argue that this is Paul's personal opinion when he says that he, not the Lord, is the authoriy in the above passage. This is a WRONG idea to be sure; as I noted before, Paul is likely making reference to something that Jesus had said. Therefore, he would be saying "the Lord Jesus said this" about the first two verses I cited. The rest is not a direct reference to something Jesus had said, so then these are Paul's words, and not Jesus's. This is NOT to say that somehow what Paul is saying here is less than inspired.

So then, what about remarriage in situations where a divorce took place because of adultery or because the non-believer left? Some argue that in such cases it would be permitted, because the marriage ended in a way that Scripture allowed. The argument goes that because of Paul's use of the word "unmarried" throughout chapter 7, and since it can refer to someone never having been married or someone who was divorced, then if the marriage ends in a way the Bible permits, it would be fine if the people who were divorced ended up getting remarried; in other words, there would be no sin in it.

It seems that this argument has a lot of weight to it. I had never considered it until recently, and to be honest, I'm still thinking about it. :) However, even if it is true (and I suspect it is), that doesn't take care of the problem that is going on in the body of Christ today with divorce. Most divorces do NOT take place because either there was an adulterous relationship or a non-Christian spouse left. Rather, most divorces end up resulting in adultery because remarriage takes place as I described above.

What we need to do as the Church of Jesus Christ is recognize that we have sinned in all of this divorce and remarriage. That is not to say I am suggesting that the new marriages already formed (when people who were divorced remarry) come to an end; I am NOT saying that at all. However, I *am* saying that the church as a whole needs to remember this is sin, and those who have taken part in it ought to repent of it, not making excuses for their sin by trying to explain it away. Further, divorce by and large needs to stop in the body of Christ, and these two Scriptural exceptions should be the only time it is allowed.

In short, if you have ever had a divorce and it was not because of your spouse committing adultery, and it wasn't because your spouse was not a believer and left, then you sinned.

If then you got remarried, and your previous unbelieving spouse leaving wasn't the cause of your divorce, and your spouse having committed adultery wasn't the cause of the divorce -- then you committed adultery when you get remarried.

That is the teaching of the Scripture, and it is about time we starting believing what the Bible said about it again and obeying it.

For the Glory of Jesus Alone.

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  • Thanks Dave, this is a great blog entry. A tough subject for those having to deal with what is biblical and not biblical in reguards to remarriage and divorce. I believe too many Christians take this lightly. Thanks again Dave!

    By Blogger Stacey, at Monday, March 20, 2006 10:41:00 PM  

  • Stacey:

    You are very welcome, and thanks be to God that I was able to do it. It isn't really an easy subject for me either.

    My parents are divorced, and there is great temptation not to make it an issue at all since it struck me so close to home. However, we still need to say what the Bible says; circumstances are really irrelevant in that they do not change what the Scriptures say.

    Thank you also for your encouragement in getting this entry completed.

    SDG!
    David Hewitt

    By Blogger David B. Hewitt, at Tuesday, March 21, 2006 6:04:00 AM  

  • I wonder then. What about a case where a person wasn't proved to be an unbeliever and perhaps the other spouse wanted them to leave and so acted so badly they (being weak) did in fact leave. Should a person have to prove that the leaving spouse was an unbeliever in order to remarry? Sometimes I guess this isn't possible. And what if the believed unbeliever had been acting Christianly beforehand and had been accepted into membership in a church after being examined by elders? Could they still be deemed an unbeliever? Or simply a Christian who made a bad choice and left under hard circumstances? This is a hard topic for me. i'm in the position of counseling several friends right now who are in terribly hard marriages and yet I have advised them to stay as they are in no physical danger and there has been no adultery. In one case, the woman was in physical danger in the home, so partly on my advice she told him to move out. But even SHE is not seeking divorce! She is determined to remain faithful to the vows she made before God and trust that His will will in fact be done! When does one decide that divorce is fine and dandy (for a believer) and remarriage is not in fact yet another sin? Just really tossing this around lately.

    By Blogger irRational, at Friday, July 07, 2006 2:12:00 AM  

  • Hey, Carrie. You ask some good questions. By the grace of God, I hope that I can provide a satisfactory answer to some of them. May His Word and Spirit guide me.

    "I wonder then. What about a case where a person wasn't proved to be an unbeliever and perhaps the other spouse wanted them to leave and so acted so badly they (being weak) did in fact leave. Should a person have to prove that the leaving spouse was an unbeliever in order to remarry? Sometimes I guess this isn't possible."

    Proving someone to be an unbeliever is next to impossible. Of course, there are signs that can strongly suggest it (such as an unrepentant heart and total lack of spiritual fruit and no desire to please God). I would have to say that the issue doesn't even come up though if the suspected non-believer isn't willing to leave. If and when that happens, then the attitude should be one of reverence for God and mourning that the issue is taking place. Never should it be something like, "Ok, finally, he/she is gone, and now I can get a divorce." That is certainly not a Christ-like motivation. There should be a desire for the marriage to work out, since that would be honoring to Christ. If that isn't the desire of the "Christian" in the relationship, then he/she needs to repent, especially considering another thing that God has to say about it. It's never to be taken lightly for sure.

    Because it is next to impossible (unless the "non-believer" who left openly states that his/her Christian walk never existed) to prove that the one who left was not a Christian, then I wouldn't say it isn't required to "prove" it as it were. However, as I stated before, I do think there can be several factors that can help determine it, even if we cannot be perfect in our conclusions. This is something that should be dealt with very prayerfully.

    I must admit, I don't look forward to the first time I have to deal with this in a church I pastor. :) However, as here, by the grace of God go I.

    "And what if the believed unbeliever had been acting Christianly beforehand and had been accepted into membership in a church after being examined by elders? Could they still be deemed an unbeliever? Or simply a Christian who made a bad choice and left under hard circumstances?"

    Since you asked the question as a "yes/no" type I'll respond that way. :) I'd have to say yes to both. The reason I think so to the first (someone being deemed an unbeliever) is what Jesus had to say over in Matthew 7:16-23. I would also have to think it could be Christian who made a bad choice; I'm sure it has happened.

    "This is a hard topic for me. i'm in the position of counseling several friends right now who are in terribly hard marriages and yet I have advised them to stay as they are in no physical danger and there has been no adultery."

    I think you have acted rightly here from what the Scriptures teach us. In fact, my aunt and uncle (my mother's brother) are in a rough time right now, and my prayer is that they would work it out for sure. They've been married somewhere in the neighborhood of 20 years, and there are certainly struggles. They've gotten out of church which certainly doesn't help. I'll pray for your friends -- pray for my uncle and aunt if you think about it. :)

    "In one case, the woman was in physical danger in the home, so partly on my advice she told him to move out. But even SHE is not seeking divorce! She is determined to remain faithful to the vows she made before God and trust that His will will in fact be done!"

    I truly wish more people were like this friend of yours. Her faith is in God and not the circumstances or herself, nor her husband. Agreed 100% that she shouldn't be in the same house if there is an abusive situation going on, but even then I would not recommend divorce. Marriage is too important, and God can indeed work things out.

    When I was in high school (16 years old) I got involved to some extent with such a marriage I became informed of through working at Chick-Fil-A. A 40-year old woman there (lost and without Christ) was in an abusive marriage with her husband beating her. She would go out of her way to mock my faith in Christ, and I would pray for her and witness to her frequently. To make a long story short, God saved her, and a short time later, saved her husband too! The abuse stopped, they became active in church, and she started working at a local Christian bookstore where she managed it and had a good prayer ministry going -- she still might be doing it! the Lord took her husband home a couple of years ago, and she mentioned how much she loved him after he was gone.

    God can indeed do anything!

    "When does one decide that divorce is fine and dandy (for a believer) and remarriage is not in fact yet another sin? Just really tossing this around lately."

    This is a good question. I think I answered it a little in my post above. It's a hard question for sure -- when is remarriage not a sin? Death is for sure one answer, but from what Paul said about someone "not being bound" if the non-believer leaves, if would appear that it is ok in those circumstances as well.

    I hope this helps, and may God grant us all grace as we continue through this issue!

    SDG,
    David Hewitt

    By Blogger David B. Hewitt, at Friday, July 07, 2006 7:48:00 PM  

  • Les McFall has an interesting way to deal with the exception clause in Matthew 19:9. He has written a 43 page paper that reviews the changes in the Greek made by Erasmus that effect the way Matthew 19:9 has been translated. I reviewed McFall's paper at Except For Fornication Clause of Matthew 19:9. I would love to hear some feedback on this position.

    By Anonymous More Christ Like, at Saturday, November 22, 2008 10:07:00 PM  

  • Leslie McFall has an interesting way to deal with the so-called exception clause in Matthew 19:9 that some hold allows for divorce and remarriage in the case of marriage unfaithfulness.

    He has written a 43 page paper that reviews the changes in the Greek made by Erasmus that effect the way Matthew 19:9 has been translated. I reviewed McFall's paper at Except For Fornication Clause of Matthew 19:9. I would love to hear some feedback on this position.

    I also wrote an article on the most popular scriptural reasons that people give for Divorce and Remarriage.

    By Anonymous More Christ Like, at Monday, November 24, 2008 1:20:00 AM  

  • what if a man decides to leave a woman and the woman does everything she can to save the marriage. Both are believers and no adultery has been committed. The wife is doing everything she can to save the marriage and has lived out her wifely duties and remained faithful to her husband and God, but the husband just doesn't love her anymore... How can a loving and merciful God punish her for her husbands decision? he is choosing to leave and is now causing her to commit adultery or she can never be married again... I am so confused

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at Sunday, April 07, 2013 12:20:00 AM  

  • So God would allow for divorce bit not remarriage? You leave a lot more out from the scriptures. U say repent means to turn. Just because someone remarries doesn't mean they have to repent of nothing! God is Grace! You pastors like to call a lot of things sin. Put down your stone. Btw..I am a pastor..seminary grad.. led hundreds of souls to Christ and have been married..divorced.. remarried..God blessed me.. still does.

    By Blogger bprather, at Sunday, May 26, 2013 11:28:00 AM  

  • Women if your husband beats u then leave! You really think God wants u to stay? Pastors are idiots who approve of that. Many things are unclear in scripture that cause us to look at the character of God as well. Is it Gods will for thousands of mothers murdered by abusive husbands therefore orphaning children? God for that? Wake up people.

    By Blogger bprather, at Sunday, May 26, 2013 11:49:00 AM  

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    By Blogger The Race, at Saturday, December 28, 2013 1:06:00 PM  


  • Some great discussion however I will simplify it as I believe the Bible is very clear on most if not all issues if we are willing to be offended by the truth.
    1. God hates divorce... pretty obvious I know.
    2. God knows "man's" sinful nature, thus, the cross.
    3. divorce/remarriage is clearly sinful outside of the exceptions stated. Typically divorce is due more to our "hardened, stubborn and prideful heart" issue.
    4. we have all sinned and fallen short so let's not make divorce/remarriage the "unpardonable sin".
    Summary: God doesn't want anyone to divorce and yet He acknowledges our humanity. Can a couple live in constant disunity, fighting, and divisiveness... probably. I think it is called a dysfunctional relationship and yes they both can be born again Christians. How does that honor God and affect their children? For some if they cannot come to peace in their marriage and BOTH ARE Christians and yet their marriage is failing, it may be a "better" witness to divorce than remain in their toxic marriage. This is not God's perfect will and we are not perfect people and at the end we ALL will have to trust in God's grace and not our own self righteousness. Consider this, if looking upon a woman with lust is like adultery then every wife has grounds for divorce and every man has already violated his marriage. Life is what it is, praise be to God that He overcame this life and His grace is sufficient for all. Let’s consider the “hardened heart” issue firs and foremost and not the isolation of specific sins in our self righteous hierarchy scale of sin.

    By Blogger The Race, at Saturday, December 28, 2013 1:25:00 PM  

  • PS
    A long term dysfunctional marriage, and these do exist, often will lead to, but not limited to, either or all; marriage unfaithfulness, anger, disunity and many other “sinful” issues. Life is not pretty at times because sin is just down right nasty in any form. Is there such a thing as a God honoring dysfunctional marriage?

    By Blogger The Race, at Saturday, December 28, 2013 1:36:00 PM  

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  • I AM A BELIEVER AND I GOT MARRIED TO A PROFESSING BELIEVER. SHE ABUSED ME PUT ME IN THE HOSPITAL TWICE. SHE VERBALLY ABUSED ME ALMOST DAILY SHE DID NOT WANT TO GO TO CHURCH FOR A WHOLE YEAR. WE WENT TO MARRIAGE COUSELING AND THE PASTOR TOLD ME SHE WAS CRAZY. I DID NOT DIVORCE HER AND I DO NOT DARE TO FILE FOR DIVORCE. MY EX-WIFE DIVORCED ME TWICE FIRST TIME WAS FOR IRRECONCILABLE DIFFERENCES, THE SECOND TIME SHE SAYS GOD TOLD HER I HAD AN AFFAIR. MY CHURCH SAYS I CAN REMARRY SHE SOUNDS LIKE AN UNBELIEVER BY HER LIFESTYLE. I AM AFRAID OF BEING WRONG AND BE LIVING IN A LIFESTYLE OF ADULTERY.

    By Blogger Phillip James, at Wednesday, December 23, 2015 7:12:00 AM  

  • Blogger Phillip James said...
    I AM A BELIEVER AND I GOT MARRIED TO A PROFESSING BELIEVER. SHE ABUSED ME PUT ME IN THE HOSPITAL TWICE. SHE VERBALLY ABUSED ME ALMOST DAILY SHE DID NOT WANT TO GO TO CHURCH FOR A WHOLE YEAR. WE WENT TO MARRIAGE COUSELING AND THE PASTOR TOLD ME SHE WAS CRAZY. I DID NOT DIVORCE HER AND I DO NOT DARE TO FILE FOR DIVORCE. MY EX-WIFE DIVORCED ME TWICE FIRST TIME WAS FOR IRRECONCILABLE DIFFERENCES, THE SECOND TIME SHE SAYS GOD TOLD HER I HAD AN AFFAIR. MY CHURCH SAYS I CAN REMARRY SHE SOUNDS LIKE AN UNBELIEVER BY HER LIFESTYLE. I AM AFRAID OF BEING WRONG AND BE LIVING IN A LIFESTYLE OF ADULTERY.

    By Blogger Phillip James, at Wednesday, December 23, 2015 7:13:00 AM  

  • Phillip, per 1 Corinthians 7, she was an unbeliever who left. From what I can understand from what you wrote, you are no longer bound in that marriage and are free to marry another.

    By Blogger David B. Hewitt, at Wednesday, December 23, 2015 9:44:00 PM  

  • You can get mad all you want, bprather, but this is the most sound teaching I've heard on the whole divorce and remarry issue. And yes, I left my wife many years ago and remarried. I thank God for pastors such as this one, who actually have the guts to speak the truth. I'm sick of watered down sermons that teach people to compromise, all in the name of not wanting to hurt the feelings of others. I wish I would have had a teaching such as this one pushed in my face when I was considering divorce. This whole grace and love message that is taught today, without teaching about the warnings of God, is what has birthed a generation of a people who compromise with sin and wickedness.

    By Blogger Kevin DeLaune, at Saturday, July 02, 2016 12:45:00 AM  

  • If what you say is true remarrying then God must screw john the Baptists head back on
    You are a false teacher

    By Blogger Unknown, at Sunday, December 11, 2016 6:57:00 PM  

  • Tell me why john the baptist had his head chopped off if adultery is pardoned.Salt of the earth was the baptist not a compromiser or justifyer of sin as he said show the fruits of repe tance to the hypocrites

    By Blogger meridian paul, at Sunday, December 11, 2016 7:05:00 PM  

  • ...so your position is that adultery cannot be forgiven?

    By Blogger David B. Hewitt, at Sunday, December 11, 2016 7:07:00 PM  

  • It is my understanding that adultery can be forgiven but it does not have to be forgiven. I do not understand why an exception is made for adultery but not for abuse. It seems abuse could be more harmful to a person. A man or woman can hurl verbal abuses at their spouse and children, and use manipulation and control tactics such as emotional, financial and physical abuse, and engage in alcohol and drug abuse but the spouse is not biblically free to leave? But if the man/woman commits adultery it is different...they are free to seek another mate. What recourse does a family in such a situation have but to stay or separate temporarily? What if the abusive spouse is physically unwillingly to leave the house except to stay out drinking or doing drugs all night, only to return a day later to behave abusively to spouse and children? What about divorcing the abuser and remaining single?

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at Saturday, December 31, 2016 8:43:00 AM  

  • John the Baptist had his head cut off because he referenced the law against taking a living brother's wife. He specifically said "it is not lawful for you to have your BROTHER'S wife". He is not speaking of remarriage here. Jesus' dealing with remarriage is new at this point in time. John the Baptist is referencing Leviticus here, not remarriage.

    By Blogger Unknown, at Sunday, March 12, 2017 11:31:00 PM  

  • Very sad to see someone proclaim what God can and can not forgive. According to Jesus the only sin that can not be forgiven is to blaspheme The Holy Spirit. I will choose to trust what He has to say on the issue of sin and forgiveness of sin. The bottom line is there are people in messed up marriages who call themselves Christians who need God's grace because of behavior that does not honor Him, and there are people who are divorced whether with or without cause who without doubt have fault and sin of their own in the failure of their marriage. Also those who have divorced and remarried without biblical cause. Non of these are able to separate us from the Love of God which is in Christ Jesus. Repent for your sin. If you do not know if you are in sin, REPENT and accept God's amazing Grace and grow in your relationship with HIM!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at Tuesday, March 21, 2017 2:24:00 PM  

  • I have been married for about 28 yrs. my husband and i were not Christ followers when we married. I surrendered my life to Christ about 15 yrs ago & am in love with Jesus Christ since. My husband also was Christ follower but backslid many yrs ago. For yrs he has been unfaithful by lusting over women on the internet & getting into lots of pornographic sites. I have forgiven him many times. But he continues to lie to me & i just found out he has been looking for women in our zip code area to have sex. When i confront him about it he gets upset & does not even look like he is sorry nor has he sincerely apologized. I see no fruit of repentance. I do not want to sin against God, so for a long time through the grace of God i have loved and accepted him & tried everything to try to help him. At times by sending him great teaching videos to help him with this issue & scriptures to help guide him in the love of God. I have been considering to separate & maybe even divorce since i see no willingness of repentance on his part . There is just no trust at all & no willingness on his behalf to seek God's face. At times i have been concerned & think of being alone for rest of my life. I am 45 and think about staying single and just giving my all to God after this, at times i have thought what if there is possibility for remarriage? Is there in my case , would it be sin? So i found your web site because i was wanting to dig deeper a study more on this subject. More than anything i believe there is a possibility that i will remain single if i decide to go ahead with this divorce. My question to you is , is it ok for me to seek to divorce if he is not willing to change? And is remarriage ok for later in cases like mine? Thnk u for taking time to read this.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at Sunday, April 09, 2017 3:35:00 AM  

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